all you need is love.
I'm not sure which Beatle penned it, but it's true. Love comes naturally. Sometimes on sight. Or the first time you hold a child in your arms. The opposite of love, hate, is definitely something one has to learn. And unfortunately Kate has learned about hate. We've heard her say it, as in "I hate this dress" or something like that. We always cringed, trying to have her use other words. But today was the first day the hate was directed towards a person. And sadly, that person was me. On the way home from church she told me so. And it just makes me want to cry. Both because Kate said it to me and because she knows what it is. She may not understand the full complexities of hate. But nonetheless, she knows it exists, how to use it in a sentence, and now, a person. All you need is love.
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6 comments:
I'm sorry, kids can be cruel huh?I'm sure as they get older our feelings get hurt even more. I'm a bit of a cry baby so I'm sure once I'm faced with that I will have many a moments crying in the shower or something.
oh man i heard that stage is no fun!! the truth is she loves you guys more than anyone. :)
I think it's the age. Christopher has been telling my mom lately that he hates her or doesn't love her quite often- and every time it makes me really sad!
She totally doesn't hate you. She doesn't understand hate in the same way we understand it. It's never fun to hear but you have to know that she doesn't REALLY know what she is saying. You loves you to pieces. If you were gone for 2 days she would be begging for you... and that is NOT hate! :)
I remember saying it to my mom and she slapped me, and informed me how much she loved me and did stuff for me and she would not listen to me say such a sad thing to her. I was probably only four, and I'm almost 60 now, but it made that kind of impression. I hope I didn't ever say it to her again.
Then my oldest said it to me when she was four. and I should have said, "You might think you hate me, but I know deep in your heart you love me, and I'll just remember that until your heart is soft and you feel it again." Wouldn't that have been great?
I didn't say that. I wish I had. I actually slapped her, too, and started to cry, because I was acting as childish as she was. Then she started to cry and we had a teary miserable few minutes that ended in hugging.
I often react poorly, and think of the wise way to handle things after the fact. Better late than never, I guess.
Of course she's just trying it out on you. She doesn't know what it really means, because she has only experienced love so far. It's only a word she's heard and she's looking for a reaction. And she got it! Look at all of us from miles away, reacting!!
You are so cute. I remember when Conor said that to me for the first time and how much it stung. Jackson says to me almost every day, "I don't like you Mommy!", but it is always followed with a big hug and "I love you soooooo much!" They are just learning how they feel and what they feel and it is all part ofo our earthly learning process. She loves you soooo much!
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